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04. Victim Consciousness Knowledge

What is Victim Consciousness?

Living in victim consciousness is really just living without your own power, and knowing or unknowingly, actively giving your power away. You, at your core, are pure, powerful and unconditional love. Shifting from victim consciousness empowers you and illuminates this truth. 

This information helps deepen your conscious awareness of victim consciousness and all its potential expressions. This knowledge may help illuminate any victim patterns and/or conditioning within you and/or those around you to support you in transcending this way of being into living in more alignment with your power.

 

Themes when raising consciousness from Victim to → Empowered:

      • Changing Helplessness → Assertiveness
      • Moving from Self-pity → Self-esteem 
      • Turning from Shame and Blame → Personal Power
      • Changing Guilt → Forgiveness.
      • Releasing Manipulation and Control → exchange for Acceptance
      • Changing Approval From Others → Approval from Within
      • Letting go of Responsibility of Others and Taking Responsibility for Self

The word ‘victim’ may bring up a few different thoughts and may even be triggering for you.

The first step in understanding victim consciousness is remembering to stay curious. This information is not defining you, but rather acknowledging patterns of manipulation that you may or may not know about or engage in, that are overall disempowering. 

Victim Consciousness creates a game with you and your energy. The victim game has 3 primary role players: the victim, the persecutor and the rescuer. All 3 players are “victims” to the game itself. You only win when you transcend the game and stop engaging in victim consciousness game play. 

The victim game is tricky mainly because you may realize you have never known any other way of being. You potentially were raised within a family that was expressing victim consciousness and may be unknowingly playing the game.

You may express yourself as one of the primary role players, but typically all roles are assumed in some way. You can play this game with yourself and with others. Typically both situations are true. 

Here are the victim consciousness game players and their patterns outlined in more detail. Remember many people play unknowingly or unintentionally.

 

Themes of The Victim

Conscious and subconscious patterns of:

      • Helpless, hopeless, desperate, lost 
      • Poor me, self-pity, pity on others
      • Unsure or unable to assume responsibility for themselves, unassertive, manipulated
      • Blames others, projecting issues onto others, unable to claim their mistakes or overtly blames self, puts self down, takes on everyone else’s issues or problems
      • Holds powerful thoughts about what they think they ‘deserve,’ including what they don’t deserve, good and bad
      • Unhealthy expression of energy, such as venting issues to others in an unhealthy way, complaining to others before processing anything
      • Substance use of some kind, mainly in an unhealthy, unconscious or unintentional way

 

 

Themes of The Persecutor Victim

Conscious and subconscious patterns of:

      • Mental, emotional and/or physical abuse of self and/or others
      • Uses guilt or shame to control situations or behavior. Makes others feel bad or manipulates situations
      • Shadow attributes of the Saboteur
      • Unhealthy giving and taking or exchange of energy with others and the environment
      • Holds beliefs of deserving punishment and/or suffering
      • Substance use of some kind, mainly in an unhealthy or unconscious/unintentional way

 

Themes of The Rescuer Victim

Conscious and subconscious patterns of: 

      • Enabler, knowingly or unknowingly promotes unhealthy patterns
      • Assumes the martyr suffering role, may take on other’s problems or issues as their own
      • Helps everyone/thing and overlooks self, helps others because they feel powerless themselves
      • Often discounts self and needs, pretends they don’t have needs
      • Always giving and unable to receive
      • Uses guilt to control, feels they do it all, overly stressed
      • Avoids true feelings, pent up resentment and hidden anger, rage, or sadness

These 3 primary victim consciousness game players have poor boundaries between themselves and others and are constantly in a game of energy manipulation. When you begin to acknowledge and recognize the game in real time, you may disengage and reclaim your choice, power and healthy boundaries in many ways.

Winning or transcending the victim consciousness game includes the following:

      • Power from within, Self-validation and gratification
      • Unconditional Self-love, forgiveness, compassion, understanding 
      • Holds Self accountable and responsible for feelings, emotions and physical action
      • Healthy release of emotions and feelings
      • Unconditional love for others, “I am empowered and you are empowered.” 
      • Holds others responsible for themselves, including how they feel and act
      • Established clear boundaries of Self and not Self
      • “I have responsibility for what I create in my life.”
      • “I hold others able to take care of their own lives.”

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