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02. Prior Relationship Self-Reflection

When you assess your relationships with curiosity you have the ability to reflect on how these relationships affect you, both positively and negatively. By reflecting prior relationships in your life without judgment, you begin to uncover patterns you were previously unaware of or tried to forget about.

Relationships have the potential to be mirrors and reflect back to you your patterns and ultimately your relationship with yourself. We typically repeat patterns, especially in our relationships. Use this relationship reflection to illuminate any patterns so you may more deeply understand yourself, your drives and your needs.

Once you understand your individual needs you may begin to supply those for yourself. 

This allows you to become more individually whole and independent so you may then have healthier relationships with others.

 

Reflect on the prompts below for ~5-20 minutes, at least 1x/day for the next 2-3 days. *Unless otherwise directed.

  • You don’t have to do or change anything, this practice is focused on bringing your awareness to your prior relationships.
  • Perform this self-reflection again in about 4-6 weeks to assess your progress and to gather any new information to continue to support you and your greatest good.
  • Optionally, use your testing technique to determine your optimal frequency and duration to use this reflection technique.

 

Prior Relationship self-reflection prompts:

Reflect on your significant prior relationships while using the prompts below to guide you. This may include any type of relationship that feels particularly impactful in your life. 

It may seem overwhelming to recall all your significant prior relationships, but by splitting your life into segments you may more easily review the influential relationships within each time frame. 

Reflect on the following:

  • Does anyone upset you, trigger you or cause a reaction within you as you reflect?
  • Do you feel connected to or tied to any of these relationships? If so, does the connection or tie feel healthy or unhealthy?
  • Does this relationship feel balanced with good boundaries?
  • Does this relationship have toxic or unhealthy energy or patterns?
  • Do you have to change, tone yourself down or act in a certain way to sustain this relationship?
  • Do any of your relationships mimic another?
  • Do you notice any pattern to your relationships and/or the timing of each relationship?
  • Do you have any relationship that spans over 5, 10, 20, 30 + years? If so, what attributes does this relationship bring into your life?

You may utilize a chart outline to organize your significant prior relationships to reflect on, see below for an example. It is recommended to add this information to your Resonate Health Journal for ongoing integration and reflection. Use as short or long a time frame as you want. 

Age/time frame Relationship  Pattern/lesson/awareness reflection
0-10 years old
Middle School
High School

 

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